Attraction isn’t always fixed—and for some, it shifts over time. That’s the reality of abrosexuality, a lesser-known identity where sexual attraction can change in intensity or focus. Writer Emma Flint shared her experience in Metro UK, reflecting on decades of shifting identities—from lesbian to bisexual to feeling no attraction at all.

At 32, she discovered the term abrosexual and finally felt understood. “I felt seen,” she wrote, describing how validating the label was. Unlike bisexuality or pansexuality, which relate to gender preferences, abrosexuality is defined by the fluid nature of attraction itself.

Despite newfound clarity, Flint often faces criticism for not being “consistent.” But she stresses that identity doesn’t need to be static to be valid. “We’re all learning new things about ourselves—that’s growth,” she said.

Abrosexuality challenges traditional labels and embraces the complexity of human attraction. For many, that recognition can be life-changing.

What do you think—does it reflect your experience?